Sophie talks about normality in birth after the recent furore. For the original post go to Nurturing Birth Directory
Breastfeeding and Antenatal Colostrum Expressing – a video blog from Nurturing Birth Directory
Sophie talks about breastfeeding support and the benefits of expressing colostrum antenatally in this video blog first posted on the Nurturing Birth Directory.
Superhero qualities of doulas – Sophie’s video blog for Nurturing Birth Directory
This video blog was first posted on the Nurturing Birth Directory
MaMa Conference – Ten Highlights
I’m back home, sitting in my kitchen in London, reflecting on two extraordinary days. A bit longer if you count the night coach travels to and from Scotland, which were an adventure in themselves! So, before life returns to some semblance of normality, my kids come home from their bank holiday weekend excitements and I turn my attention to the ever-growing to-do list I want to remind myself of some of the things I have heard/learnt this weekend. Because conferences are an ideal time to recharge the birth battery and get an oxytocin hit!
Sophie writes in Juno Magazine about Postnatal Doulas
I am so grateful to Juno Magazine for letting me reprint the article I wrote for their autumn edition about postnatal doulas – Mothering the Mothers.
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I hope you enjoy!
What makes good feeding support?
Yesterday was my final volunteering shift of the year on the postnatal ward at my local hospital. Each time I go in I spend a few hours visiting with new mums and their babies and it gives me the most amazing opportunity to support women feeding their newborns. Every time I come away having learnt something new, having met more extraordinary women overcome challenges and find confidence in their new role as a Mum. I meet such a huge variety of women – from the really young to the more mature; the first-timer to the Grand Multip with five or more children; the under-privileged to the extremely affluent. And, at the point when I meet them they are totally united by this experience of having given birth. Almost without exception they are instantly catapulted into that maternal need to know that their baby is feeding, is getting what he/she needs and is thriving. The vast majority of women I meet have a desire to breastfeed – they know that their milk is what the baby is expecting to receive, know the benefits for both the baby and themselves, and have possibly even done some classes about feeding. So, why are there problems? And how are we letting women down in this country?
How to support someone having a miscarriage
I was really fortunate, earlier in the year, to do a study weekend with an extraordinary woman and psychologist, Anna Verwaal. Her work is primarily around prenatal and perinatal psychology – a lot of what she had to say was extremely challenging as she believes that babies are affected and informed by the pregnancy they experience and the birth they go through. Not so great to hear for anyone whose experiences during those times are less than positive. However, the message I took away was that women (and families) need emotional and practical support not just in preparation for birth, but also in preparation for pregnancy. What a lovely idea to have fertility doulas, particularly for those who are treading that difficult path of fertility treatment, exploratory tests and miscarriage.
Time and time again the subject that new Mums bring to me is that of night-times and baby’s sleep. Often it is a couple or more months down the line, when the novelty of the newborn has worn off and life is settling in to a more predictable pattern. That is when we have emptied the sleep bank of anything that we stored during pregnancy, and when we are desperately searching for answers/solutions to sleep-problems.
Elizabeth Pantley, author of the No Cry Sleep Solution says that women believe that they have one of two options – to cry it out, or to live with it. And for most those are bleak choices. We are biologically programmed to respond to our babies when they cry, in fact the majority of mothers will wake a few minutes before their babies do at night – it’s like we have an inbuilt alarm clock. It therefore goes against the grain to let our babies cry for any length of time – it causes us distress, let alone our babies. And, there are more and more studies coming out about the psychological damage being done to babies by controlled crying, with emotive words like abandonment being used. However, living with a nocturnal waker can be a real challenge – we need sleep – in fact sleep-deprivation is a form of torture. So, what can we do. Do we have any alternative choices? (more…)
Woman’s Hour and Birth Choice
I’m not sure how many of you will have heard Woman’s Hour this morning where the subject was choice in birth. Once I got past Kirstie Allsop’s uncomfortable interview style, I found it interesting to listen to, amongst others, Belinda Phipps and Christine Hill discussing antenatal education. It is a subject close to my heart, given the work I do in preparing doula clients for birth, and also as I embark on antenatal class provision myself. There seemed to be unequivocal agreement that antenatal classes are good thing, but it is intriguing to note the divergence of opinion on what subjects are key to cover, and what can slip.
Thankfully the furore surrounding the birth of Prince George has finally died down and, with luck, Kate and William can get on with their lives without such an extreme media spotlight glaring. They have entered that phase that has become known as “The Babymoon”. This term was originally coined by the splendid anthropologist Sheila Kitzinger (who I saw last in Edinburgh in April – in her mid-eighties and as lucid and sharp as ever) to mean a time immediately after birth when the parents hunker down and spend time getting to know their baby. In fact, it is believed that fathers find the transition to fatherhood far easier if they do spend two weeks minimum at home after the birth. The babymoon term has been “stolen” by various travel companies to entice pregnant couples away to enjoy one last holiday together prior to the baby’s arrival, but we won’t dwell on that!